I read an article by Darlene Schacht and was reminded how much our children need our hands on affection. Darlene has given me permission to share this article with you. I have not posted the article in full, but if you would like to read the full article you can follow the link at the bottom of the page.
How To Truly Hug Your Children
by Darlene Schacht
Since we found out that my dad was sick with cancer this past year, I won’t leave the house without hugging and kissing my parents. I have come to realize that every minute I have with them is a gift from God. Every hug, every word, every kiss—all gifts that I tuck into the treasure chest of my heart. I cherish their wisdom, their loving kindness, and yes—their touch.
We all need physical contact–numerous studies have proved that, and common sense confirms it to be true.
“Verbal and physical affection enable a child to learn morality...Physical affection turns children into sponges ready to absorb the lessons parents teach...” Liane J. Leedom, M.D. Mother, Author, Psychiatrist.
We all know the benefits of hugging our children, but how many of us are hugging them to the fullest?
For years my parents have been doing the “pat.” In fact, my teen-aged son had started doing the “pat” too in recent years, until I pointed out to him that a pat could never hold the same potential that a genuine embrace can. It is now a topic of humor in our family, but nevertheless the hugs have improved immensely.
In The Power of Body Language, author Tonya Reiman writes, “[The pat] is the universal signal for, ‘OK, the hug is coming to a close now.’”
The pat is commonly used for social hugging, and it can also indicate that a hugger is uncomfortable and wants to let go.
A hug is an exchange of two hearts entwined for one precious moment in time. It’s a warm embrace that reminds you you’re loved. It’s a squeeze that tells children they are secure in your arms. It’s being held close by a gesture that signifies, “You are cherished and loved.”
A genuine hug entails an intentional, lingering, and deliberate touch that sews their heart with yours. Linger a while longer, embrace with intention, and let your hearts mingle before you let go.
To read the full article you can follow this link. http://womenlivingwell.org/2011/06/how-to-truly-hug-your-children/